We had heard about those lavish and extravagant punjabi weddings but never got a chance to truly experience it until recently.
November – December are peak wedding seasons in the north with almost every wedding hall booked out. We were really excited to be part of one of our good friend’s wedding in Delhi during the last week of November and decided to make the most of this opportunity. Week long festivities and mouth watering food are the main attractions here :p (Tip1: Best to book Delhi flights in advance as they tend to go up close to travel dates. We prefer to fly Indigo, Jet Airways and Air India as they are mostly ontime)
Packing started a week in advance sorting out traditional wear for the Dhol and main wedding ceremony and party wear for the sangeeth party. We barely managed to keep our luggage under the 15 kg limit and began to wonder how we would manage on our return with additional shopping from Delhi. (Tip 2: Carry your best clothes as you will never be over dressed in a punjabi wedding)
We landed at the domestic airport T1 around 8.15pm and had to que outside for EasyCabs as they were in high demand. After a 15 minute wait, we managed to get one and reached our destination (Paschim Vihar) in 45 mins. We even had to pay for the cab’s airport parking charges (Rs 90) which I felt was not justified. (Tip 3: Best to book your cab in advance esp during evenings or early mornings. Try Taxi For Sure – 011 60601010 or Quick Cabs – 011 67676767 which offer the best rates of Rs 14 – Rs 16 per km. Tip 4: If you are keen to use the Airport Metro, you will have to take a shuttle to Terminal 3 from where you can board the Airport Express train to the city.)
We managed to do all our last minute shopping at Karol Bagh which is well connected by the metro and is one of the popular shopping hubs in the city. Other hotspot for shopping are Sarojini Nagar Market and Lagpat Nagar. The only issue is that most of these markets are focused towards women. We also managed to do a quick stopover at a local restaurant to try out the quintessential Butter Chicken and naan. (Tip 5: If you plan to travel extensively in a metro, pick up a metro card and load it with cash. You can return this card at the end of your trip and get a refund of the amount leftover along with the depost.)
Evenings were dedicated to wedding festivities starting with the Dhol ceremony with unlimited drinks and dancing followed by yummy punjabi food. We noticed a lot of money being given away by the family members to the dhol artists and the servents during these festivities and in all subsequent ceremonies to avoid bad karma on the bride and groom.
The next day, we decided to visit the famous Dilli Haat which is again bang next to INA metro station. After three metro changes, we managed to reach our destination in about 75 minutes. Considering that we were in one corner of Delhi, it wasn’t so bad. Dilli Haat is an open air market where traders from all across the country display their art and offering local cuisines. A great place to spend half a day and look for some traditional handicrafts, clothes and home decor. One stall that stood out was TJ’s which is essentially products made by the inmates of the famous Tihar Jail. Their products are quite popular and their chefs are in high demand. (Tip 6: Must try the famous Fruit Beer, Chicken Momo’s and Avadh cuisine while you are visiting Dilli haat. Frankly, we didn’t fancy their Fruit Beer so much.)
The sangeeth ceremony was like another party with a wide variety of starters, alcohol and lots of dancing. If you’ve noticed, food, booze and dancing are pretty much a constant across all these ceremonies. Finally, the bride to be and the groom see each other for the first time in many days and are pulled on to the dance floor soon after their families greet each other. The evening comes to an end with mouth watering food and desserts.
Bride during a ceremony before the wedding
Bride and groom dancing during their Sangeeth
Things go into hyper mode on the main wedding day with the haldi ceremony (both the bride and groom are smeared with turmeric paste by their respective family and friends). The women dash to the local parlor for their makeup session while the men ready their Kurthas and Sherwanis. The barath (groom’s procession) leaves the groom’s residence after some rituals (groom’s sister feeds the horse) and heads towards the wedding hall. The band leads the way playing popular tunes with the family members dancing all the way to the venue.
Barath procession to the wedding venue
At the venue, the bride’s sister and cousins demand money from the groom and block his entry. After some negotiations, he is let in and allowed to sit on the dais. Moments later the bride arrives and the exchange of garlands take place again with a bit of drama🙂
Garland exchange during the wedding
At this point, we soon realized that it’s already 1am and the actual ceremony hasn’t begin. After a formal sit down dinner, the wedding ceremony begins at around 2.30 am. This is when we decided to wish them both and head back home since some of us were flying back the next morning.
For someone living in the north, this may sound common, but for a south Indian where weddings are seriously boring affairs, this was surely an experience of a lifetime. Does make the entire experience of getting married more lively.
So, the next time you get invited to attend a punjabi wedding, don’t hesitate one bit. Oh, and we did manage to get all our shopping back without spending on excess baggage🙂
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